Did you know that your success and happiness can be strongly affected by some special kind of people called Energy Vampires? Unfortunately this is true. People who are around you, including parents and other family members like siblings, in-laws, friends, classmates, colleagues, competitors, etc., can be very important in your life. These people can help and support you a lot. But they can also take you down and ruin your life and future. There are usually some negative people who are also known as energy vampires around anybody. They can have negative and horrible roles in your life. They can easily ruin your life. But the good news is they can do it only when you allow them to.
Why Did I Write About Energy Vampires?
The first reason is that like anybody in this world, I have been suffering from energy vampires’ negative behaviors in different stages of my personal and business lives. The good thing with me is that I learned in early stages of my life that I had to welcome the supportive and positive people and ignore the negative ones. This is what most people never learn. Many people learn it when it is too late and they have already missed so many opportunities because of the energy they allowed the energy vampires to suck. Therefore, I decided to write an article and awaken those who still don’t know what to do against these strange creatures.
Energy Vampires Victims
I was reading about some celebrities. One of them attracted my attention more than others. The article was about an actress, Greta Garbo, who retired early and when she was only 36. She could still be one of the top ones for several more years. The reason she decided to retire early was just a “negative review” that she took to heart.
After reading about her, I decided to write an article on this topic as soon as possible. In my article, I will try to help you not to close the success doors on yourself just because some sick and jealous people cannot see you climbing the success ladder. They usually don’t kick you down physically. Through their negative words, they can make you stop climbing or even jump off, even when you have only a few steps to achieve your dreams. You are always at the risk of being affected by these people. Maybe you have already got hurt by them before. I hope this post doesn’t reach you when it is too late. Of course, it is always the right time to start from scratch and recover what you have lost.
First, Know Yourself Properly
Negative people can hurt us only when we underestimate ourselves. I am sure that most of you still don’t know how unique, outstanding, valuable, energetic, strong, amazing, creative and talented you are. Most of us have learned to see our weaknesses only. Maybe you
– Are not good in math or literature and you have not been able to finish the school or go to college or university;
– Don’t look as good and handsome as Hollywood celebrities, or you have got bankrupt a couple of times;
– Are not a good writer and you have problems even in writing a short email, or you are not articulate and cannot express what you have in your mind properly;
– Are not handy and you cannot even cut the backyard grass on your own.
Many of these can be true about you, but what you cannot do or you are not good at, is not all of you. You are beyond these things. The things you cannot do are not important, although you can learn how to do them if you want. There are too many things that you can do, or you are potentially able to do. Your mind is even bigger than everything we have in the universe, and just you alone is more valuable than all the stars and planets. Do You Know Why?
Because you are a human and your abilities and capacities are literally “unlimited”, no matter if there are a few things that you cannot do properly for now. So you are big and glorious, even if you have no money in your pocket, or you have filed bankruptcy for a few times so far. These are not just some positive words to make you happy. They are nothing but reality.
Many of those who underestimate themselves and found themselves broke have become able to do great things and make the impossible possible the moment they decided to. They changed their lives when they forgot about their weaknesses and focused on their abilities. I can give you so many examples. If you know yourself, then no negative word from energy vampires can affect you.
If someone says “you cannot be a good actor, because you have accent”, you should ignore them because you know that there are so many who had accent and became great actors. On the other hand, when you are serious to become a good actor, your accent cannot stop you and cannot be known as an obstacle. This is what you have to know and believe. You have to learn to focus on your goals, and ignore the other things. This is what Greta Garbo was not able to do, because although she was doing great and she had so many fans, some rave reviews made her leave her job too early. She paid lots of attention to some negative words by a few negative people and energy vampires, but she ignored thousands or even millions of her fans, and the great things she had achieved. This is insane…
She really didn’t have any problems. Her only problem was that she didn’t know enough about herself. She didn’t believe in her abilities and achievements.
Unlike Greta Garbo, Arnold Schwarzenegger was strong and smart enough to defeat all his opponents and achieve the things that most people cannot even imagine. He was used to hear the negative words, maybe even thousands of times more than Greta Garbo.
Arnold started standing out in a crowd, when there was a lot more competition compared to the time that Greta Garbo was working in Hollywood. Greta Garbo was Swedish but many of her films were silent. It means nobody heard her voice, and so her accent wasn’t a problem. Some reviewers started nagging about her accent only when she started playing in talkie films. Like Greta Garbo, Arnold Schwarzenegger also had the accent problem because he is Austrian. But unlike Greta Garbo, he had this problem from the first time he played in a film. In spite of this, he paid no attention to this problem at all.
These are the negative things Arnold has been used to hear from energy vampires:
- You are nothing but a mass of muscles.
- Your account is terrible.
- “Schwarzenegger” is such a strange and ridiculous last name.
- A stranger with so many problems cannot have a place anywhere in USA’s cinema, business or government.
Arnold #1 Rule of Success
These problems could not stop him from becoming a great actor, nor could they stop him from becoming a governor which is something that even most Americans cannot achieve. The reason is that his #1 rule of success is “Trust Yourself” according to himself.
Greta Garbo took the reviews and negative points to her heart. She did it most probably because she didn’t trust herself and thought that the reviewers were right. But Arnold Schwarzenegger paid no attention to energy vampires, because he trusted himself, and so problems like accent looked negligible to him. This is the difference of Greta Garbo and Arnold Schwarzenegger.
No Problem Is Big Enough to Stop Us
A problem can stop you only when you see it too big and you believe it as a problem and deficiency in yourself. We are the ones who make our own problems big. They are not big in reality. No problem is big enough to stop you. You are greater than what you can even imagine, no matter who you are, where you live, what you do, how much money you have, or how educated you are. You can be great and do great things as soon as you want to.
So, if you believe in yourself and your values and you trust yourself as Arnold says, energy vampires cannot suck your energy and take you down. You simply laugh at what they say and you keep on advancing. You know that most of the things they say are not true. Some of the things that can be true are not important at all. Besides, you can always improve yourself and become a better person. You can resolve many of the serious problems, or if you cannot, you can strengthen your other abilities to cover your weaknesses. So there is no point to listen to them and take their words to your heart.
When You Trust Yourself
When you trust yourself and know your values, you don’t spend even one second to follow what negative people and energy vampires say. Energy vampires are literally sick and there are so many important things missing in their lives, and that is why they talk negative. So it doesn’t make sense for you to follow what these people say. You should know that what they say comes from an inner problem. So, it doesn’t make sense to listen to them.
When someone has a dangerous virus, they can transmit it to you. You cannot get a bad virus from a healthy person. Therefore, as a healthy person who wants to stay away from diseases, you have to stay away from someone who has a bad virus. Or, at least be careful when you have to be in touch with them somehow. Similarly, to stay away from negative words, you have to stay away from the energy vampires who tell you the negative words.
You are healthy and you must maintain your health. Energy vampires are sick and you should stay away from them, not to follow what they say. If there is an energy vampire in the same place you live, be it your parents, siblings, or your spouse, and you have no option but living with them at least for now, just be nice and kind to them, but don’t pay any attention to their negative words and behaviors. It is not easy, but you can do it if you want. You can laugh at them in your mind and have fun.
Be patient while you are doing this, but keep thinking about leaving or moving to another place as soon as possible. You should not stay in an unsafe place. Your mental safety is very important.
Who Are Energy Vampires and Why They Are Like That?
They are humans like you and me, but unfortunately they have problems. Like someone who has an infectious disease caused by a dangerous germ, energy vampires have something harmful inside which has affected them badly. They are hurt for some reason, and have not been able to handle and fix the damage. They need help definitely but unfortunately in most cases they don’t receive it from others, nor do they think about helping themselves.
Someone who is full of positive energy cannot hide it from others. They talk and act positive. They support others and give positive energy to anybody they meet or talk to. But someone who has lost his energy has nothing positive to give to others. There is something missing inside them that they try to have it back, but they don’t know the right way of doing it. They do it through hurting others and sucking their positive energy mainly by saying negative words.
Things like you
- can’t do anything right;
- are ugly;
- don’t look good;
- are not smart and qualified enough to do it;
- are stupid and weak;
- can’t achieve your dreams.
- There are so many who are much better than you.
- I hate you…
Hearing the above words makes you lose your energy, enthusiasm and creativity. In most cases, people take them to heart, like what Greta Garbo did. These negative words are even more harmful and fatal when heard from close relatives like parents. Unfortunately, so many close relatives do this to their beloved ones. They are hurt themselves. and so they hurt others, while they don’t know it. You can easily leave the school or quit the job you love because of the negative words of these people. This is the worst you can do to yourself.
How to Deal With Energy Vampires
Don’t ever try to change an energy vampire because you cannot and chances are they hurt you more when you try to help them. Just ignore, forgive and forget.
Keep the distance as much as possible. If you can’t, just don’t take their words to heart. Smile as if you are listening to a joke. You are what you are. Negative words cannot change the reality. You are the one who can hurt yourself by listening to negative words and taking them to your heart.
Sometimes, thousands of people talk against you but you are not aware of it. So you do your things normally and happily in this case. But just something that one of them says against you can easily hurt you when you hear about it. Still nothing is changed in you. You just heard some negative words that were used to be said against you while you didn’t know. The difference is, you didn’t know it before; but you know it now. You are still the same person anyways. There was/is nothing wrong with you. The problem is that you have got some negative words to your heart; the negative words that you knew nothing about them before.
Ignore It and Let It Go
Instead of taking the negative words to your heart, you could choose a different way: You could ignore them instantly as if you had never heard them, and then live the way you were used to.
But you choose the other option which is taking the negative words seriously. So, indeed you are the one who is hurting yourself. You are injecting the poison into your own vain. Therefore, everything is under your control. You are the one who can choose the good or the bad option.
You cannot shut peoples’ mouths, nor can you prevent their negative actions and behaviors. There is no control on them from your side. But you have full control on yourself. You can spend your life listening and following what your enemies say against you. But you will get hurt and feel broke if you do that.
There is another option which is much easier to follow: Don’t give them a damn, as if they don’t exist at all.
The more successful you get, the more enemies you will have. This is normal. You will be stopped at the middle of the way of success and prosperity, as soon as you spend your time following what your enemies say against you. You can be more successful every day if you keep on focusing on your life and job and enjoying your moments. So everything is under your control.
What Will Happen to Energy Vampires Finally?
They get worse every day. As they spend their time and energy on negativity, they cannot do something positive and important for themselves. So their lives won’t be good. They try to heal their wounds through wounding others, but they get worse the more they do it.
They usually don’t have anything against you. You should not take it personal in most cases. You or someone else doesn’t make any difference for them. They just want to hurt someone to soothe their own pains. Just ignore and forget, and be focused on what you like and enjoy. You are greater than getting hurt by a bunch of negative words. You get hurt only when you want to.
Some energy vampires make money through spreading negativity against others. This is very common on the internet. It is very easy to gather some gadflies around a website through publishing gossip against those who are doing good (like celebrities), whereas it takes more time and energy to create a community of healthy and positive people.
The reason is that the smell of the crap that the energy vampires publish on their websites can only attract gadflies who enjoy negativity. Their soul can only be fed by negativity. They start following those websites as soon as they find them because they need those websites to empty their inner pressure by reading and saying negative words against others. This makes traffic and money for the energy vampires’ websites. This is what they want and is the easiest way for such incompetent people to make money on the internet. They get more encouraged to focus on negativity when they see that their negative posts and pages receive lots of attention and comments from people like themselves. But nobody gives a damn to their other posts and articles because there is nothing invaluable in them. So they prefer to stay focused on negativity.
Positive and Healthy People Never Follow the Internet Trolls’ Websites
You have to work too hard to attract the trust of the healthy and positive people. They don’t spend their valuable time on any website they stumble upon. They should see value and truth in your words, otherwise they won’t trust you. Your expertise and professionalism makes them subscribe to your newsletter. They leave your site and will never be back as soon as they see no value in your words. You can’t waste their time on negativity and gossip.
It is too hard to create a community of healthy and competent people. But such a community is priceless, and becomes more valuable over time. One can make money faster and easier if they focus on negativity and gossip against others. But they will be a losers in long term because they can never go beyond a certain level. All they will have is a herd of sick, jealous, depressed, broke, failed, torpid and useless people gathered around their websites. They go lower every day while they are accompanied by their followers who are all like themselves.
What to Do with the Internet Energy Vampires or Internet Trolls
In most cases, this is what you must do against the internet energy vampires too: Ignore and Forget!
Chances are you become famous somehow and you attract the attention of the Internet energy vampires and they publish negative words against you. First of all, you should never spend even one second to read what they say. Your time is more valuable than being spent on this. However, if you accidentally got faced with their sites, you just ignore and leave immediately while you hold nothing in your mind and heart. You must really ignore and forget otherwise you hurt yourself.
In case some of these people leave negative comments on your website or your FaceBook page, you just (1) delete, (2) block, and (3) forget.
You have to keep your site and pages clean for healthy people. You cannot let infected people get in and transmit the germs to others.
It Is up to You Which Option to Choose:
You can be like Arnold Schwarzenegger and pay no attention to negativity and climb the ladder of success. Or you can be like Greta Garbo who allowed sick people to hurt her. What others say about you doesn’t change anything. You get hurt only when you take their words to heart. Keep in mind that internet trolls and other kinds of energy vampires are broke and miserable, otherwise they would spend their time on good and positive things. Most of them are not even man enough to reveal their real name, identity and location on their websites and blogs, or on the social media and forums. Nobody knows who is behind their sites. They either have no “About” page on their sites, or even if they do, there is nothing about the site owner(s) or admin(s) on it. Why?
Because they know they are making money by spreading gossips against others. This makes them feel scared and unsafe. A healthy person must do nothing but ignoring them and getting more focused on positivity. Energy vampires are always doomed.