Maybe you are one of those strong, hard-working and serious people who enjoy working, want to make a difference and stand out from the crowd. Many of these people don’t work to get famous. Fame is the last thing they think about when they start working, but they become famous anyway, because they make a great job and create something different.
Fame is the side-effect of the great job that great people do, but it is not the true indicator of their priceless efforts, and their success. Haters are the ones who determine whether they are really successful or not.
Whatever you do, you will have some fans, no matter if you are doing great or not. But, you will have some serious haters, when you really start standing out of the crowd. Your fans will support and your haters will harass you. Maybe you will never receive any gifts from your fans. They just like you and smile when they see you. But your haters can even take you to the court and accuse you of so many things that you have never done.
Surely you will make some mistakes while you are passing the success stages, but people usually don’t care about these mistakes and ignore them as long as you are not known as a successful person yet. The attacks will be started by your haters once you stand out from the crowd.
What does standing out from the crowd mean?
You create something new and outstanding, for example a software, that does something new and extraordinary. You become too wealthy through your business or product. You create a website that becomes too successful and popular. You become more famous than your other competitors.
These are the things that make you stand out from the crowd. It means people see you more than your competitors. They buy your products more. They visit your websites more. They buy your books more. They…
You have to be prepared for this, if you are serious to be ahead of the others. Is it worth to be ahead of the others, attract so much attention, as well as so much hostilities, hates and accusations?
Those who reach to this level, do not plan for it. They just plan to be focused on their jobs as much as possible. They don’t work to attract attentions. They are focused and dedicated, and so, what they do, makes a big difference. That is something that attracts the others’ attentions finally. But if you work to attract attentions, you attract everything but attentions.
It is not worth to have too many haters and enemies, but it is worth to work hard and make a big difference. That is one of the reasons we have come to this world. To be focused and dedicated and doing something great is a big goal that anybody has to go for, no matter if it creates too many haters. The number of your haters is a good indicator of your success. The more you stand out from the crowd, the more some people will hate you and create problems for you.
That is the price that we have to be brave enough to pay.
“Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds.” – Albert Einstein
How Do Successful People Deal with Their Haters?
Different successful people have different strategies for dealing with haters. What is more common among them is that most of them try to ignore the haters and be focused on their jobs. They have been focused on their jobs, and that is why they have become successful and have so many haters. This is what most of them prefer to keep on doing. They ignore their haters.
By “ignoring” I mean they don’t react to the nasty emails, comments, letters and phone calls, but there is something that they care about, which is the number of haters. They know it as the indicator of their success. They believe it is not pleasant to deal with haters and receive nasty emails and comments from them, but what is even worse is having no haters!
A product, service, website and… that has no hater is doomed, because it means it has not been able to compete with the similar products, services and websites, and it has not been able to stand out from the crowd. It means it has not been able to stimulate the competitors jealousy. When your competitors don’t care about you, don’t talk against you, and don’t even know that you exit, it means you are still far behind them.
Haters are a group of people who love to hate. They cannot see the others’ success and prosperity. They always look for a chance to hate something or someone. If you compete with these people in something, then it is even worse. Being their competitor is a good reason for them to hate you. They don’t bother to hate you that much as long as you are behind them. But if you become a winner, you are on their radar screen. The more you succeed, the higher number of haters you will have. You don’t believe me? Then let me give you some examples.
You know Microsoft and Bill Gates. I am one of his fans. I love him and his company a lot. What he has done, has created jobs for millions around the world. You cannot imagine how many families are fed by the jobs that Bill Gates and his company have created. How many went to university and became doctors, engineers, teachers, scientists, nurses and… because of Bill Gates and the income he generated for families through his products and activities. Everything that Bill Gates, his company and products have done for people of the world, look great and positive. He has changed everybody’s life in the world, directly or indirectly.
Even after doing such a great job through his company (Microsoft) and after he thought that he had done enough with Microsoft, he decided to spend his wealth for the humanity as much as he could, and so, he and his wife, Melinda Gates, established the Bill & Melinda Gates Foundation to help poor people in poor countries to have better and healthier lives.
Therefore, Bill Gates should not have any haters as such a philanthropist and nice person, right?
Bill Gates has a love-to-hate ratio of 3:1 according to SocialMention statistics. It means 25% of those who live in the world, hate Bill Gates, his company and products. The other statistics show a 63% hate rate against Windows, 69% against the company, and 89% against Internet Explorer.
So, it really seems that there is a direct relationship between the success level and number of haters.
In spite of all these haters, Microsoft still makes billions of dollars every year. They made $23.38 billion in revenue only in the last quarter of 2014.
It is almost the same with the other successful companies like Apple. 44% hate Apple and 68% hate the iPhone. In spite of this, Apple has $137 billion in the bank.
So you should be happy when you have haters and their number is going up every day. It is your success indicator. On the other hand, you should look at haters as opportunities, not obstacles. They make you grow even more. They make you stronger and they develop more self-confidence in you. The only person who gets hurt by a hater, is the hater himself. Someone who has hates in his heart, is torturing himself while those who are hated by him, are focused on their jobs and progress more every day and they don’t care about him, because haters focus on people, but people like Bill Gates focus on goals.
“If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things.” – Albert Einstein
While haters waste their time to sabotage Bill Gates, he is focused on doing the right things and working on his ideas.
“Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.” – Eleanor Roosevelt
You have to know how to deal with your haters, if you want to focus on your goals and ideas and stand out from the crowd, otherwise haters can stop you and make you discuss people also. You have to know how to deal with your haters. They are opportunities for you to grow, but they can take you down if you don’t know how to deal with them.
Smart people like John Chow who is a famous blogger, look at haters as opportunities to make more money. In spite of this, he doesn’t allow them to leave nasty comments on his blog. Although some people criticize that this is against freedom of speech, but it is not, because you don’t stop and prevent people from talking freely by removing their nasty comments and posts from your site. They will keep talking against you anyway. By removing their negative words from your site, you just keep your followers and yourself focused on your important jobs and ideas. You have several right things that you have to do for a long time consistently. If you waste your time arguing with haters, you cannot be focused on the right things you have to do.
“Do the right things long enough, consistently.” – Bill Gates
This is what we do on LuckScout too. Haters and small minded people started attacking LuckScout almost from the first days I started writing on LuckScout. When I published my How to Become Multi Millionaire…, a nasty person who did not even read the article entirely, just judged me from the title of the article and started posting nasty comments. I would have welcome him if he had read the article to the end, but when I found out that he had not read the article even once, and he just wanted to sabotage me, because he was also a fellow blogger who wrote about trading, I preferred to kick him out. He was full of hate and anger. I could feel this from his words.
Since that time, we receive nasty comments, emails and posts every now and then. It seems the number of our haters is also going up, which is good. I hope it keeps on going up.
Although it doesn’t make you feel good to be hated by some nasty people, it is the indicator of your success, whether you like it or not. When they attack you, it means you are doing good. They don’t bother to harass you when you are not doing good yourself.
I call them nasty because they usually don’t use a proper language. They insult and sabotage. Even sometimes they threaten you. They are small minded because they could focus on their own jobs too and stand out from the crowd, rather than spending their time on hostility and hate. But, their small minds don’t allow them to go beyond what they are. They are limited to the boundaries their small minds are limited to.
Although the increasing number of your haters should make you happy, you have to be careful not to spend your time following their posts, comments and articles. If you do so, you will be deviated from success which is what your haters want. They want to make you lose your concentration. They enjoy if you answer them with nasty words, but feel defeated when you don’t.
So, this is how you should deal with your haters:
Don’t let them enter and interfere your work atmosphere. Be focused on your job, and don’t allow your haters to attract your attentions. Keep your site and your company free of your haters and their words. Don’t spend any time arguing with them. This makes them happy and encourages them to harass you more.